My girl is out at a bar with her ex and maybe other friends. I am uncomfortable with the idea but I don't want to be controlling. How would you feel?
Is it okay for your GF to hang out with her EX
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Then why the hell aren't you hanging out with them? Are you freggin high !?
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Holy ****! Thats awesome!!! You should def let them "hang out" together, maybe they will let you "hang out" with them at some point in time.:shhh:
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Just because you trust her, NEVER means you can trust HIM :rtft:
This is a classic situation of old feelings starting to reemerge.
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If this is your attitude in this situation, maybe you should try men.:teehee:
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Fixed it for ya.
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I think if you feel uncomfortable with her hanging with the ex or friends you don't like then you need to say something to her or she will start doing it all the time and it will really eat away at you. Been there done that and wish i would have said no.
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I would trust her to shut him down if he made a pass. And if he got her drunk and took advantage of her, I would trust that they would be finding the peices for quite some time.
When I was 25 I was living with my girl for 8 months (dated 1.5 years before), talked marriage, and I had money set aside for a ring. Totally trusted her in every capacity, including time spent with her ex, even though her ex was friends of friends, so he always "lingered" and always was around. I trusted her. I even hung out with the ex tons of times and didn't see him as a threat based on time that passed and our relationship. One night I left her at a bar with a group of friends, her ex included. Short of the story: She stayed out the whole night and ended up spending the night at the ex's, I moved out the following day and bought a jet ski instead of a ring. I shouldn't have trusted him - therein lies the problem.
All's fair in love and war, and her ex, if still interested, owes you nothing and can and will swoop in no matter how much you trust her. Lesson learned for me.
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It all depends on what happened with them before.
If they were together and realized they weren't right for each other but stayed friends sure.
If it was a mutual thing, then yes, you should trust her enough to let her do whatever, if she does do something with him then she wasnt right for you.
If she broke up with him and he still likes her, no.
If they were together and realized they weren't right for each other but stayed friends sure.
If it was a mutual thing, then yes, you should trust her enough to let her do whatever, if she does do something with him then she wasnt right for you.
If she broke up with him and he still likes her, no.
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This made me laugh so freaking hard.. thanks for that.
And well as you see the mixed answers it is pretty simple that it depends on the situation. If you have any lingering thoughts then follow that gut and put a stop to it. if you dont see it as a problem let it be.
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Were they friends before they were scissoring? If so, she's going to pull the "WHAT, I can't hang out with my FRIENDS now?!" card on you.
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I say NO. trust is just that trust but no need to be in a situation that causes that trust to be tested.
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Put her underware on, so when she gets back, you might get lucky.:2thumbsup:
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