I'm stoked! (edit: not yet but it's better, see the last few paragraphs)
I just finished replacing the oil pressure sending unit & installed a decent (not RP/Wix quality) filter, a fresh fill of Mobil 1 EP 5w30 and some Lubegard. There were some temporary funky things going on with the oil pressure (it seemed like plugging in AlfaODB raised the reported pressure), but it quickly stabilized - and no more noise at warm idle after sitting for a few minutes. Reduced startup tick as well.
I haven't gotten to the QuadraLift yet. It did drop back down overnight, after moving the vehicle, which removed the temporary "lock" as it were. I'll tackle that next. If I do have to replace the front airbags, that's an opportunity to get fresh struts, so I have no issues with that
Thanks for all the help. I'm able to trust this as a short distance/short term daily driver, and if it stays stable I'm gtg for the longer haul.
Oh btw the Hemi runs better now and I can crank it up and hear the growl! I thought I was all grown up, but this changes things, ahahaha....
Edit: ok this is funky. If I let it sit for 2 hours, then go out and start it up, it's noisy and the oil pressure is really low at idle. The noise is better than it was for sure, but it gets semi-noisy and the measured pressure gets low enough to set off the low oil pressure alert. After running it for a few minutes, the reported idle oil pressure improves to around 15psi (I would rather have it higher, but it isn't noisy and it jumps right up to 30psi when starting out. Max is 45psi when "on it".
I could understand a bad anti-drainback valve in the new filter, but not the lower pressure when cold vs warm thing.
Also, maybe not coincidentally, when I connect AlfaODB to the ECU, the idle jumps up to 1000 and the oil pressure is at 35psi. I did try driving it with AlfaODB hooked up but the initial assessment was that it wasn't reliable. It's like there is something other than the mechanical oil pressure relief valve that is changing the oil pressure.
If anything, this engine is keeping my mind sharp, haha! I do feel a lot better knowing that the OP is decent; maybe I can get by for the present by warming it up at a fast idle for a couple of minutes, before putting a load on the bearings.
I still absolutely am in awe of all the features, and this is the best ride I've had so I'm sticking with it and learning how to do maintenance. Anyways, sorry for wasting anyone's time with my blatherings.
Oh to be real clear, the amount of valvetrain noise directly corresponds to the reported oil pressure.