Is there a particular reason you're set on 3"?
I'd be surprised if you could eye ball the difference between 2.5" and 3", and most manufacturer's springs settle differently. 3" is sort of right on the line of making a decision to run a track bar bracket and high steer drag link.
What I'm running is AEV's 3.5" dualsport lift with a bunch of synergy steering upgrades. But this will require a new front driveshaft before long (I don't care what AEV says about that), and exhaust modifications. The 2.5" lift should be more friendly to the driveshaft and not require exhaust modifications. Without aftermarket bumpers, winch etc it will likely be closer to 3" anyway. Either way they are both great lifts, with triple rates springs (all four corners) and bilstein 5100 shocks that are custom tuned for AEV. They are well known for on road handling.
If I was in your situation where my wife was daily driving the thing, I'd probably have a good look at the following. I'm not trying to push certain products, these are just the things that I used and I'm extremely happy with my setup. If you've made the decision to swap lifts, still want close to 3" and keep the 35s, this will be a solid setup with great steering and handling. This is essentially what I have installed on my 2012, but with the 3.5" lift, plus the Synergy Ball Joints, and I've sleeved/trussed/gusseted the front axle. I've beat this thing up pretty hard for the last 15k miles and it is solid. I greased everything yesterday and jacked up the front to look for any play, none. The synergy stuff doesn't bend and flex and deflect like the factory parts did. I aligned it once, haven't needed to screw with it since. The synergy rod ends on the tie rod and drag link are 1 ton metal on metal ends, left hand thread so one spare fits all. The track bar uses and FK Heim joint on one end (easily replaceable) and a poly bushing (same thing) on the other.
The prices I posted are from the manufacturer web sites so they can generally be found for less.
AEV DualSport XT 2.5" Suspension $959
AEV Geomemetry Correction Brackets $99
Synergy Chromoly Tie-Rod $325
Syngery High Steer Drag Link (can be mounted normally in factory position) $200
Synergy Adjustable Front Track Bar $200
Synergy Front Track Bar and Sector Shaft Brace $200
Synergy Lower Control Arm and Track Bar Hardware Kit $80
Synergy Cam Bolt Eliminator Kit $15.00
Stock Pitman Arm ????
I may be leaving some things out. You may need a different steering stabilizer and tie rod clamp now that the factory parts are gone? The 3.5" lift from AEV does come with an OME stabilizer which I've been happy with as well.
Anyway, just throwing out one option with everything put together for you. Definitely consider input from anyone else who gives it. I run all of this stuff with the AEV 3.5" lift (all bracket welded on the front axle) and love it. Here are a few of my setup...
Watch this video I took with the stock steering components on 35s. Notice the track bar actually bending and flexing, and the deflection in the bushing on the frame side. This is what started the terrible steering. Soon the tie rod and drag link did the same, and the cheapo ends got loose. You may be able to get decent handling on 33s but on 35s I'd really want to upgrade everything up front.
Ride height with a bunch of extra weight.