I feel your pain man. Me and my lady just split up as well. The reason for us was school (chemical engineering can be a real pain in the ***) but at the end of the day, you just need to realize if its not working now, it will only get worse. My gf and I had been dating for over 3.5 yrs and we broke up probably half a dozen times, got back together, and repeated. In the long run all it did was hurt more and make it harder because we were so used to the routine and we always had each other. But at the end of the day, we just weren't compatible. Moral of the story, you gotta find the right one, but to do so ya gotta let the wrong ones go which can be hard as hell sometimes. Best of luck! Don't forget, you're not alone.
Once that cj is rolling. And your out on the trails wheeling, fishing, hiking, hunting and all that other out doors stuff, you'll be so glad she ain't around to say "are we going back yet"! Jeeps are a hobby. Not Jus fixing them but they enable us to do so much awsome stuff. My wife and kids love our jeep as much as I do for what it let's us do as a family. Quality time together!
Sounds like she was high maintenance bro! You can't have a high maintenance chick and a jeep......it Jus don't work.
96 ZJ sittin up 6" on 35's with 4:56's and a 12k winch. Cuz...why the hell not!?
Find the right girl and all is good. Spent 20 years married to the biggest ***** ever. After we married, all the things I thought she enjoyed doing with me went right down the crapper. 3 years after our wonderful, well earned divorce, I met a sweetie that does enjoy camping, hunting, kayaking and jeeps. Four months into our relationship she went with on trip to Moab with me and loved it! One year later we repeated the trip and I proposed to her and she said yes. The point, do what makes you happy and be yourself, somebody will take notice
As has already been said, if she can't accept your passion, then she isn't worth your time. That's basically just the surface of a much larger underlying issue, in that she's basically an attention whore (which can be expected with any young person, boys included, as we all think the world should revolve around us at that age) that expects you to do what she wants you to do, when she wants you to do it. It goes both ways, and that's anything but a reliable relationship.
My girl doesn't know **** about automotive mechanics. That said, I take the time to explain it to her, and even include her in wrenching, though she admittedly gets bored with it at times. Still, I patiently explain everything to her. What I'm doing, why I'm doing it, and what the ultimate outcome is once it's done. This helps her better understand why, and better understand my hobby and passion. For the record, she has never once complained about me spending time, or money on my Jeep. If anything, she asks me when I plan to do it next, so she can help out. Sort of funny how that works, but yea. When you find one worth your while, just be patient, and be thorough. The end result is well worth the effort.
Also, the aforementioned bus arrival analogy that I failed to quote..... spot on
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For anyone who is following this, the jeep has been Sparta and together several times since. I'm now dating a girl who loves the outdoors, knows absolutely nothing about jeeps or cars but always is trying to learn and wants to come help when I wrench. She learns as things break on the CJ. She just learned how to change u-joints after I shattered a socket trying to do it.
'86 CJ7, I6 258 four speed manual. See ya on the trails!
Just try to be understanding when she expects you to help cook clean and do laundry LOL. I had a girl say to me once "you'll love me I cook clean and take care of my man" I said, I've been a bachelor for too long, I can take care of my self. If you want to impress me get out in the garage... She didn't last long..
Good luck with the new GF!!
96 XJ 4.0 Auto 4" RE 34" Swampers 95 XJ 4.0 Auto 6" Longarm, 33" (for now) 99 XJ 4.0 Auto 3.5 Zone 31" BFG A/T 31" Swampers. Daily driver / weekend warrior
2 kids who LOVE to beat them to death!!!