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post #1 of 18 Old 05-26-2010, 07:30 AM Thread Starter
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Jeeping Saved My Marriage

A little over 5 years ago I bought a 1985 CJ-7 that was in decent condition. I went through the Jeep pretty thoroughly, made some necessary repairs and added some items to make it more off-road capable. I bought the Jeep because my wife and I were going through some tough times and I just wanted to get away from her any chance I could get. My plan was to get the CJ-7 reliable enough to drive away on weekends and camp/trail ride. I worked long hours in the week and didn't want to be at home where she would be found on weekends. Life had just drifted us apart and it seemed that we had nothing in common anymore. I would take weekend trips of jeeping and camping either by myself or with one of my kids and each time I would leave there would be a mixture of negative emotions. She hated me working on the Jeep after work and I hated her constant nagging about my hobby. At first my wife showed no interest in the Jeep or participating in my frequent excursions. Slowly, she began asking more and more questions about where I was going and would come to the garage to see what I was doing more frequently.

Finally, about a year ago later, she went with me on a trip. We spent the entire weekend off-road and camping together. I figured she would hate it and might even want to come home earlier than I had planned. I thought that she would decide that she didn't enjoy something that I liked doing and that would be the end of it. I was wrong. We spend time relaxing together while driving trails and the conversation started flowing like it hadn't done in a long time. I let her drive some and liked it. We took several more trips in the CJ-7 and each time it was a good experience for us and our relationship. After a while, we started thinking about how much more comfortable it would be if we had a newer Jeep. We were driving 200 miles one way to get to a good place to camp and trail ride and it started making more sense to get a Jeep that was newer and more reliable. About three years ago, we decided to sell our minivan which we didn't need anymore and our CJ-7. We combined the money from both vehicles and bought a 2004 Wrangler Rubicon. Since then, we have made numerous trips together and plan trips several weeks in advance. We are excited about every trip we take together. After almost 25 years of marriage at the time we had finally found something that we both enjoyed. With just the two of us together for entire weekends driving and exploring trails, we have talked more in the past four years than we did in the past 15 years. The jeeping experience has completely changed our relationship and outlook for the future.


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post #2 of 18 Old 05-26-2010, 09:35 AM
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Awesome. Glad to hear things are working out for you.

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post #4 of 18 Old 05-26-2010, 01:49 PM
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That is a great story and thanks for sharing it.

I find it is so important for a couple to spend quality time being together away from it all. And what a better way, then a Jeep out in God's country.


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This is awesome!!!

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post #6 of 18 Old 06-11-2010, 09:48 AM
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Thanks for the story!!

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post #7 of 18 Old 06-11-2010, 09:49 AM
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Cool story. Look at that.... Jeeps bringing people together.

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Good story sir. I'm getting married in Sept. and my fiance likes to drive the Jeep but doesn't like me working on it. Your story makes me think there is hope.
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Great story...One reason I'm regretting getting my baby back is all the memories it will hold of my Ex and all the long trips we used to take in her.
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post #10 of 18 Old 09-25-2011, 06:32 PM
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Congratulations....... I am glad that a Jeep saved your marriage. I wonder how many more have been made better or have been saved by a Jeep?


My relationship with my wife wasn't as bad as yours, but after years of being married, the spark was weak. My Wife, like yours, at first didn't want anything to do with the Jeep or Jeep-n. Finally, she went off road with me, it was a bright sunny day, not too hot, not too cool, the top was down and the doors were off, we had lunch packed. You couldn't ask for a better day to be in the woods just taking the easy trails. I wasn't sure if the wife was having a good time or not, until..... we saw a Jeeper using a winch and she looked at me and said "that thing is handy, you should probably get one"... I knew she was hooked. My Wife & I travel a fair amount wheel-n over a 3-4 State area.. We always have a good time, even if the wheel-n isn't the best.
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Congratulations....... I am glad that a Jeep saved your marriage. I wonder how many more have been made better or have been saved by a Jeep?

My relationship with my wife wasn't as bad as yours, but after years of being married, the spark was weak. My Wife, like yours, at first didn't want anything to do with the Jeep or Jeep-n. Finally, she went off road with me, it was a bright sunny day, not too hot, not too cool, the top was down and the doors were off, we had lunch packed. You couldn't ask for a better day to be in the woods just taking the easy trails. I wasn't sure if the wife was having a good time or not, until..... we saw a Jeeper using a winch and she looked at me and said "that thing is handy, you should probably get one"... I knew she was hooked. My Wife & I travel a fair amount wheel-n over a 3-4 State area.. We always have a good time, even if the wheel-n isn't the best.
Great to hear. My wife knows I love working on the TJ and going wheeling with our son. With him moving out and it just bring the two of us, I'm hoping I can get her to join me more often even if it means easier trails.

I'm hoping to get her and me to a camping trip to Turkey Bay this summer...

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post #12 of 18 Old 12-09-2011, 09:30 AM
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Good for you!!
My son and I are the jeepers. The Hubby is not. Wierd huh? Maybe Ill invite him to go along this weekend.

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As a matter of fact I do Jeep like a girl. :-)
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My wife loves to go along for Jeep rides. She is an avid photographer and she loves it when we come across an old ranch or ghost town in the wilderness so she can take pictures.
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So I asked the hubby if he wanted to go for a drive in the jeep yesterday down an easy trail and he said " well I guess you can do that ..I'm not going."

Never drop your gun to hug a grizzly.

As a matter of fact I do Jeep like a girl. :-)
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So I asked the hubby if he wanted to go for a drive in the jeep yesterday down an easy trail and he said " well I guess you can do that ..I'm not going."

Does he like to fish?, hike?, Geo-cache?, photography?, explore out of the way places like old cemeteries, old towns, scenic sights. If yes, maybe find the "perfect day", not too hot, not too cold and combine these activities with the Jeep. Maybe pack your Hubby's favorite meal for lunch and just go out and have a good time together.
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