So you guys would recommend running like a 4.5in and 35's rather than a 6in?
Simple answer: yes.
first answer what you want to do with the Jeep. what tires do you NEED to run where you're going?
my suggestion - drive it and wheel it like it is for a year. save your money. then you'll know wtf you want.
This was recommended to me when I had a stock height Sport (the one I have now) on 31's and 3.07 gears. I wheeled the heck out of it, found its limitations, what I needed to encompass into my future build plans to overcome that "thing" that stopped me and I learned why I need lockers, why 5.13s are better for me (and my Jeep) than 3.07s and why I wanted D44's front and rear vs. D30/D35, etc., etc., etc.
Wheel it stock, beat the heck out of it, learn where the abilities and inabilities are. And the best thing about that? It'll make you a better driver that can overcome biger challenges unlocked in 2 wheel drive that others can't do in 4Lo and locked. You learn how to be a better wheeler because you know your Jeep better.
I think what people are doing is trying to get you to determine what you really need vs. what looks cool and indicating just how big an undertaking 6 inches of lift will be if you want to end up with a safe/usable rig.
4.5" on short arms is liveable. I did it for about 8 months.
I would however recommend 3.5" suspension and 1" body. That will ride nicely and be plenty of room for 35" tires.
3.5" suspension, 1" BL...rear Idaho Jeep's build thread. That's what he rides. Besides being one of the coolest rigs out there, Idaho is very detailed in his build thread about the whys, why nots and reasons for deciding upon products (beware...it's a LONG read, but worth every hour spent doing it).
With flat fenders and adjustable arms... 35s on 2" BB is also doable. Sure, clearances everywhere are tight, and wheel offset, bumpstops, trackbars, and limiting front steering is needed... but if tire size, ground clearance, and offroad capability are the issue... there is NO reason to go to stupidly tall lift for any tire size that can be driven on the road comfortably.
OP, also read up on low center of gravity (LCOG) builds.
and I absolutely second (fourth?) the suggestion that you drive it stock, maybe with better tires in a 30 or 31 height, for a year before you start building.
LCOG builds: X2. There's many great threads here about them and you'd be amazed how capable a rig you can build without going up 29 feet in the air.
Main point: Determine what you need this rig to wheel. What kind of terrain? Is it going to stay a DD? Do research. Buy a Rubicon so you start off with a more than capable rig. Wheel the heck out of it and learn it. Have fun. Use this forum as your money saving tool. Read my signature that's written in white lettering. It's true. And as a last thought...build, don't buy. It's far more fun that way and you'll know better how to fix something that's broken (or a broken buddy on the trail) than if you buy built.