[theirishavenger]

Ok, long story short:

My sister served papers on her husband (my bro-in-law) because he was "verbally abusive". The divorce became final Friday. She took him for everything she could. Their relationship had been on the rocks for about two to three years. They went to marriage counseling about three times before she quit because the therapist pointed out something she needed to improve upon. Hubby continued with the counseling alone for the last three months of their marriage and he also joined a church and bought a lot of books. He seemed to be really making an effort to fix himself when she served him.

He came to me and my wife for support. At first after being served he fought hard to save it, like I say continuing with the therapy and church and whatnot. Then she admitted to him that she'd been cheating for the last two years with two different guys, and later he learned through a mutual friend of theirs that there might have been as many as five, and it may have started up to five years ago. He of course dropped trying to save it, just continuing to confide in us and let the divorce run its course.

Now, since it's my sister who did this, I'm in a bit of a fix. When I confronted her about the cheating, she went ballistic on me, accusing me of airing her dirty laundry and spreading vicious rumors. Now she won't talk to me. No one else in the family knows, and indeed when she spends time with family she lies to cover up her transgressions, instead blaming everything on her now ex-husband and vilifying every new girlfriend he brings to his house. She now has her own apartment, which the ex graciously helped her get into. My mother, who babysits for her, has no idea what's going on and has almost called Social Services on hubby several times because of what my sister has been saying about him. It's your typical nasty "turn the kids against daddy and take everything he has" scenario.

So, my conundrum is this: Do I stand by and let hubby continue to get mud slung on him and hope he comes out ok, or do I rat out my sister's dirty little secret to the family so that the playing field is level? I have a hard time abiding what she is doing, even if she is my sister.

[Zaphod]

I respect women in every way shape and form...

But your sister is a *****.

[LoneJeeper]

In the interest of keeping the kids daddy around, i'd squawk. apparently someone has to keep the kids interests at heart.

your sister is a *****.

lj

[FlaJeepin]

If you rat her out she will hate you for the rest of your life. It's your decision.

[jeverett]

Originally Posted by LoneJeeper

In the interest of keeping the kids daddy around, i'd squawk. apparently someone has to keep the kids interests at heart.

your sister is a *****.

lj

That is exactly right, she seems to be a petty selfish ***** who wants all the gain for herself in this situation no matter who this hurts including the children that should, but obviously are not the most important thing in her life.

To me she sounds like an immature, self centered, cheating whore who doesn't give a **** about her family. but that is just my .02

[NoUse328]

x3 on the *****.

It's probably in the kid's best interest that you rat her out, as well.

[jeepin_man]

I say rat her out, who cares if she hates you. Keeping secrets like that will only make you hate yourself

[keoki04]

Women can be evil and in this case it shows!!!! Let it out!!!! It is obviously bothering you quite a bit b/c you have a conscience and she is a heartless *****... You will feel better about it afterwards. She may hate you for a while, but she will always be your sister and things will settle over time. If you do not say something then it may affect the kids in a negative way down the road... The truth hurts... So let her have it!

[martinsburgjeep]

If it were my sister, I'd rat her out

[XJIceQueen98]

If shes gonna play dirty... then she can expect there to be mud slinging... its not fair to him thats done nothin wrong to risk loosin seeing his kids.... id be callin ur mom...

[famicom21]

i say..

[/\/\uD b0gg3r]

rat her out.... read your PM

[harleysilo]

Nip it in the Bud. Rat this *^%$#%^& &^%$%$ out before it's too late....They may not even believe you now!

[JungleLarry]

NEVER go against family. Ever. No matter what.


...but your sister needs a whoopin and a half.

[SpikeMangler]

Sing like a Canary.

Gather the whole family together when you do it.
Have your sister there too.

It'll be an awesome party.