I dont speak to my little sister. At all. I say hi to her at family gatherings but besides that, nothing. She decided to take the path in life that I do not agree with (weed, excessive drinking and idiot boyfriends) so I chose not to associate myself.
I'm on the flip side; I'm the only boy with four sisters. One day my youngest sister calls me and told me she was "dis-owning" me as a brother. She said she never wanted to talk to me again and if asked she will say that she has no brother only three sisters. I said fine but at least tell me why you are doing this and she said she didn't want to talk about it now and I'll find out soon enough.
Well that was over twenty years ago and I never did find out why I was dis-owned and she hasn't spoken to me since.
I'm the youngest of three. Im 20, the middle brother is 26 and the oldest is 29. I am closer to the middle brother because he lived with me and my parents through out most of his college life, and he is back an forth living with us trying to get his life figured out. No big deal, he has a bachelors in Photography from the Art Institute and is trying to find a place to live where he can make a living off of that. For now, he works in a rock yard that he is a manager of that he has worked at for 6 years now. I am some what close with my older brother, but the age difference really effected that. I was in elementary school when he was going to college. I don't have a problem with either of them, and I don't think they have ever done, or ever will do something that will make me not talk to them. Mostly because both of them are level headed.
Is it broken?
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I'm an only child, but my parents did enough damage to me without the help of a sibling. My Dad is around, but more a friend than anything, and a constant source of let down the two or three times I see him and my stepmom a year. My real mom disappeared on my 5th bday to continue her life of hard drugs. I don't recall at what age, but eventually she'd send a card at Xmas and my Bday with a $100 in it, but never a return address. I yearned for that address for years. Then on my 15th bday she finally wrote a letter saying I was old enough that if I wanted to meet her, I could. So I did... I'm 30 now, and have seen her maybe 6 times since then. She's seen my 6 yr old daughter twice, both less than a year old, and never seen my son. We lived in the same town for years before she moved to South Carolina to pursue whatever it was. After only receiving Xmas phone calls, I decided to finally tell her to go away and forget I was ever born. That was 5 years ago, and I don't regret it a bit. If she loved me, she would have made an effort. She owed me the attention and effort, not the other way around. She didn't make it, she messed my head up with women and commitment so much it ruined relationship after relationship for me, and almost killed my marriage, but luckily the wife was patient. It's hard to write off a family member, but as others have said, you can only do so much, and I have to keep looking forward for my kids at this point.
I think what makes it so difficult to write-off siblings is the fact that an ongoing struggle can cause a strain on the entire family. For instance, my father and his sister recently had a falling out, and the only reason he is even peaceful to her instead of telling her to go **** herself is because he needs to appease his parents. In my case, I certainly feel my distaste for her as a human being has caused a strain on my parents, because they want me to be kind to her and cut her some slack. It upsets them when they see me disregarding her or laughing at everything that comes out of her mouth.
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As a parent, if one of my two kids turned out disappointing, my feelings would be hurt if my other kid made fun. Its a constant reminder that I could have done more to make them better. I can definitely see where yours are coming from, but it completely defies human nature to just turn a cheek and put on a happy face. Its hard enough for me to grin and bear my Dad being an alcoholic and pretend to ignore it. But if they started mooching off me to support their addiction, I'd be out.
agreed. my father gave way too many second chances because he didn't have a father growing up and lived a very sad and tough life. i try to live my life as best as i can, to the point that my parents would agree/be proud of everything i do. i consider my life a tribute to my father as i consider him in everything i do. at least my brothers aren't nearly as bad as some of you guys that have posted here, no offense, but i know they can do better.
[QUOTE=Anticanman;15529804]If I were an ARB in a Dana 35, I would kill myself too.[/QUOTE]