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Marconis 03-06-2011 02:33 PM

Do you not speak to a sibling?
 
My mother always stated that it's sad when family members cannot get along, and that you should always have respect since you're "blood". I tried to retain this mindset, but I've reached a breaking point in which I can no longer fake being happy around my sister. I'm 19 and my sister is 23. I absolutely despise her. She is everything that I dislike in a human being...literally, she exhibits what I like to call the worst traits in someone's character. Have any of you ever reached a point where you just couldn't pretend anymore, and continually expressed your distaste for a sibling if an opportunity caused you to? I feel guilty in this blow-up that I had with her not too long ago, but I have begun to think the "respect your family" thing is a bunch of hogwash in certain instances.

Rob99 03-06-2011 02:48 PM

You can choose your friends, you can't choose your family. I have a sister I don't speak to much. She's made some choices I do not agree with and let her know about it.

Marconis 03-06-2011 02:52 PM

I think letting her know about her stupid decisions and way of life is why we get into so many fights. While my parents **** on her sometimes, everyone generally keeps their mouth shut because she blows up in anger. I, on the other hand, feel it necessary to tell her when she's being an *******.

bremz8 03-06-2011 03:01 PM

im starting to feel this way about my mom, she is the reason i dont respect women.

g4x4xgeoff 03-06-2011 03:03 PM

I barely speak with my sister. growing up she took every opportunity to ruin anything and everything I had going, and would sell me down the river if it made her "better"

Rob99 03-06-2011 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Marconis (Post 11105419)
I think letting her know about her stupid decisions and way of life is why we get into so many fights. While my parents **** on her sometimes, everyone generally keeps their mouth shut because she blows up in anger. I, on the other hand, feel it necessary to tell her when she's being an *******.

The way I see it, if a friend were to screw you over repeatedly would you continue being their friend? Probably not. So I don't see why just because a person came out of the same womb as you, they should get a free pass to keep screwing you over.

Marconis 03-06-2011 03:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rob99 (Post 11105476)
The way I see it, if a friend were to screw you over repeatedly would you continue being their friend? Probably not. So I don't see why just because a person came out of the same womb as you, they should get a free pass to keep screwing you over.

Great point. Thanks, Rob.

JeeperSC 03-06-2011 04:47 PM

I only ignore mine when I know they want to raid my DVD collection!

kg4kzv 03-06-2011 04:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rob99 (Post 11105476)
The way I see it, if a friend were to screw you over repeatedly would you continue being their friend? Probably not. So I don't see why just because a person came out of the same womb as you, they should get a free pass to keep screwing you over.



Bingo you hit the screw on the head!!!!

Chris

warrior99 03-06-2011 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by kg4kzv (Post 11106111)
Bingo you hit the screw on the head!!!!

Chris

:confused: :laugh:

Marconis 03-06-2011 05:16 PM

Think he means nail :p

kg4kzv 03-06-2011 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Marconis (Post 11106206)
Think he means nail :p


Nope I meant screw nails are too easy for this subject!!!!


Chris

ExpressoNate 03-06-2011 05:20 PM

I hate talking to my sister. She's 23 and acts 10. I'm 21, and refuse to put up with it.
Leave her alone is the best bet. When your forced to talk to her, avoid anything meaningfull unless she initiates it.
~Nate

Marconis 03-06-2011 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ExpressoNate (Post 11106226)
I hate talking to my sister. She's 23 and acts 10. I'm 21, and refuse to put up with it.
Leave her alone is the best bet. When your forced to talk to her, avoid anything meaningfull unless she initiates it.
~Nate

The whole reason that I posted this is because a fight was triggered when she informed us that she'd be staying another night at our (My brother and I) apartment. She has been here since Thursday, and I won't take it anymore. She leaves her **** around...she brings two gigantic bags and leaves them spread open in the corner and it makes my apartment look like ****. So, when I asked if she was staying another night, and she said yep and smiled, I got pissed. I live in a ****ing two bedroom, and I don't like having my living room trashed. I'm fine with her sleeping here once a week or something if she needs to be close to the city, but *******, don't stay here for four ****ing days. She knows I hate when she stays here, but I'm "Such an *******." for feeling that way.

mrJ 03-06-2011 05:26 PM

im 28 and the oldest of 3 boys. the youngest, at 23 is homosexual, and the middle one is 24. the middle brother i do not speak to. he does not exist to me. he tried to hit my fiance one night and my dad had to hold him back. (his wife has told us he has hit her a few times) i forgave him after he apologized to her, not me, and that was that. about 9 months later, it happened again, right before his kidney transplant. this time i chose to not speak to him anymore, thinking that maybe if i did this, it would finally show him what a **** he is. (he barely grad high school bc my mom did his final projects, no college, works for father in-law, and has just generally had his way his entire life. his wife even puts out his meds for him as he's too lazy) i turned down his request to be best man in his wedding, and that was that. needless to say, family functions are a blast. everyone in the family dislikes him and his wife bc they thrive on drama, while my fiance and i are pretty laid back people. our wedding is in june, and it is the general consensus of the family to not invite them. (i had already made this decision, as it was solely mine to make) my mother doesnt know yet, and i hadnt planned on telling her until she blatantly asks me.

on the topic, it's really your call. in my opinion, he was raised better than that and should know how to respect women. that's all i want, to not be a violent ******* who targets women, and he blatantly refuses to apologize. so until he does, he's not good enough to be my bro. this is the condensed version, as i didnt want to take up the whole thread. just my 2 cents...


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