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post #31 of 46 Old 12-19-2013, 08:27 AM
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Dude. Get married. Get a joint bank account. Do a monthly budget.
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Crazy talk!


Right?

I used to think that way too, but thats the plan when we get married. Finances ruin so many relationships.

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How is the bonus different from any of the rest of her salary? You sound greedy. My wife sometimes gives me a portion of excessive overtime if she does a whole row of doubles, but it's because I run the house while she's away and she shares of her own accord, not because I asked. If you really MUST have something as a response to the bonus, convince her to spend the bonus on something you need for the house or the wedding.

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Right?

I used to think that way too, but thats the plan when we get married. Finances ruin so many relationships.

Y'all gotta get to readin' some Dave Ramsey.
I'm reminded of what Al Bundy said,

"I married the he!! out of her!"

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How is the bonus different from any of the rest of her salary? You sound greedy. My wife sometimes gives me a portion of excessive overtime if she does a whole row of doubles, but it's because I run the house while she's away and she shares of her own accord, not because I asked. If you really MUST have something as a response to the bonus, convince her to spend the bonus on something you need for the house or the wedding.
There is no difference. But read a line that you just typed. "My wife sometimes gives me a portion of excessive overtime if she does a whole row of doubles"
This is all I am asking...THE GESTURE!!!!!! NOT THE MONEY!!!

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I'm reminded of what Al Bundy said,

"I married the he!! out of her!"
He also said " I said 'till death do us part. After that I'm free to date!"
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This is all I am asking...THE GESTURE!!!!!! NOT THE MONEY!!!
Sounds like the speech I got last Valentines day. I hope she remembers to give you a boquet of roses there, Mr. Sensitive.

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Money should not be used for gestures.
...except in certain unreputable clubs.

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post #41 of 46 Old 12-20-2013, 05:48 AM
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Tell her that if she gives you some of the bonus money that in return you will have intimate relations with her.

Now that, my friends, is a true jeep forum response.

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Money should not be used for gestures.
...except in certain unreputable clubs.
those clubs around here are very reputable.

And to the OP, get over it. you want the gesture, she wants the cash, move on.. get married, then ask for cash.

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There is no difference. But read a line that you just typed. "My wife sometimes gives me a portion of excessive overtime if she does a whole row of doubles" This is all I am asking...THE GESTURE!!!!!! NOT THE MONEY!!!
But the gesture is money. I'm confused. You don't want money but you want her to offer money? That way you know she thinks of you. This is all just silly.
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post #44 of 46 Old 12-20-2013, 10:12 AM
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Dont ask. I have a similar living situation with my longtime girlfriend. For us the marriage thing would be a formality and tax break. She makes her money, I make mine. We have a joint account that we budget things like bills, mortgage, etc. That way whatever money I have left at the end of the month is mine to as a I please with and same goes for her. She makes quite a bit more than I and the only time that I might ask her for money is if she wants to go on a vacation and its just not in my budget. Then I might ask her for some help with a plane ticket or something like that.

Don't ask for her Bonus. Thats hers and if she wants to give you some of it then thats fine, but don't go asking.
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post #45 of 46 Old 12-20-2013, 11:24 AM
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Well, we talked about it last night. I told her that I felt that it would be a nice gesture on her part to atleast offer me some of it to help with Christmas presents or whatever. I didn't get into a big shpill or anything, I just mentioned it her and told her that I have always considered anything that was mine to be hers and so on and so forth.
There have been times in our relationship where she has needed money to help out with things and I have always offered and helped and I told her that it would be nice for the same to be offered to me. thats it.
I told her that I didn't even care about the money, I just wanted the gesture. To feel that she would do the same for me as I would for her. thats all.
She understood and I told her that I didn't want any of it, all I wanted was to know that she thought of me.
This made my head spin. Why on God's green earth would you even bring this up if you didn't need the money?? A gesture is just a formal way of showing intent. So what exactly is her intent? To give you her money to show she loves you?? Or is it because she feels sorry for you??

This is just twisted! I hate when people say this blanket statement but you really need to man up if you are looking for these type of "gestures".

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