[BamaJeepman21]

Originally Posted by dwbrown

Our school is more like Go to school so we get out ******* money or we'll take you to court.

Exactly. My school system could care less about if they even teach us. All they want is the states money.

[Speed911]

Originally Posted by Ross

I just don't understand this attitude. When I was younger I could not wait to grow up, become a man and make my own way.

Sorry didn't mean to thumbs down you, I'm on my phone!

Anyways. Mom is a flight attendant and is gone anywhere from a day to 5 days at a time. Dad is a cop and a fire fighter, he's gone at least 24 hours at a time every third day. So I have the house to my self most of the time anyways. Plus, the more money I save, the bigger down payment I can put onto a house. I've saved about $15,000, I'll start house shopping when I have $20-$25,000. I don't think there is any problem with taking my time, especially if I want to be financially sound when i do.

[JCJeep97]

Originally Posted by Speed911

Sorry didn't mean to thumbs down you, I'm on my phone!

Anyways. Mom is a flight attendant and is gone anywhere from a day to 5 days at a time. Dad is a cop and a fire fighter, he's gone at least 24 hours at a time every third day. So I have the house to my self most of the time anyways. Plus, the more money I save, the bigger down payment I can put onto a house. I've saved about $15,000, I'll start house shopping when I have $20-$25,000. I don't think there is any problem with taking my time, especially if I want to be financially sound when i do.

Sounds like you're doing fine to me. Most people can't save $15.00, good job with what you're doing. Living with the parents is fine unless you're like 42 and play Halo all day.

[jeeper1987]

Completely agree with everything list my dad pound most of that knowledge into me
With the living with the parents your extremely lucky I had to pay rent or move out as soon as I turned 18 so not a whole lot of room to save there

[Photog2000]

Originally Posted by Speed911

Sorry didn't mean to thumbs down you, I'm on my phone!

Anyways. Mom is a flight attendant and is gone anywhere from a day to 5 days at a time. Dad is a cop and a fire fighter, he's gone at least 24 hours at a time every third day. So I have the house to my self most of the time anyways. Plus, the more money I save, the bigger down payment I can put onto a house. I've saved about $15,000, I'll start house shopping when I have $20-$25,000. I don't think there is any problem with taking my time, especially if I want to be financially sound when i do.

This all fine and such to a certain point. Please dont take this the wrong way because I have no personal clue as to what your home life is all about or the situation your parents are in. Take it as a general statement to all young adults still living at home.

Remember to show some respect to your parents by getting the heck out if you can. Did it ever occur to you that they might like to retire and get on with their own lives again after the 20 plus years they devoted to helping you get started in a life of your own? This could be the reason why some parents choose tpo charge the children rent.

[Speed911]

Originally Posted by Photog2000

This all fine and such to a certain point. Please dont take this the wrong way because I have no personal clue as to what your home life is all about or the situation your parents are in. Take it as a general statement to all young adults still living at home.

Remember to show some respect to your parents by getting the heck out if you can. Did it ever occur to you that they might like to retire and get on with their own lives again after the 20 plus years they devoted to helping you get started in a life of your own? This could be the reason why some parents choose tpo charge the children rent.

Dad can't retire for 4 more years. Mom won't be quitting flight attending until after that, so that won't be changing anything. I'm definitely not staying those four years though, for sure. We're all happy in this situation right now, like I said, Mom is gone a ton, Dad is gone fairly often, and I work a 9-5 job, and come home to an empty house more times than not. Soon though, hopefully, I'll come home to MY empty house!

[Photog2000]

That was why I tried not to make it a direct reply to you and more general. I just see my in-laws wanting to retire in the worst way but My wifes little sister just keeps spitting out kids and doesnt want to take care of them so Grandma is babysitting nearly every moment she has time off. Her health is horrible but the little snot sister just has no clue because it is all about her. We even got the in-laws into camping last year so they could try to get away on her weekends off. Guess what. Little sister hunts them down at the campground and dumps kids in their lap. It has gotten to the point where my wife and her little sister don't even speak anymore because of it.

Sometimes moving out isn't really moving out if you use your parents for a free babysitting service, so also remember this in the future. It should be a treat to go see Grandma and Grandpa

[Sarahdactyl]

Should probably add one more thing in there:

College isn't a requirement and doesn't mean your life is over if you don't go. College isn't for everyone so if you can't hack it, don't fret it.

If you don't want to go, don't let your parents make you go. You more than likely end wasting money and not doing so well. Sometimes it takes a little bit to realize where and what you want to do in life.

I really wish the school system would talk about trade schools and community college more often and not just 2-4 yr college. I wish there were more trade schools out there. Community colleges are great for finding out what you want to do and not spending an arm and a leg to do it.


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[Wintermute]

Originally Posted by Sarahdactyl

Should probably add one more thing in there:

College isn't a requirement and doesn't mean your life is over if you don't go. College isn't for everyone so if you can't hack it, don't fret it.

I really wish the school system would talk about trade schools more often and not just 2-4 yr college. I wish there were more trade schools out there.

I absolutely agree. My dream is to at some point be able to open my own trade school. Really I'd like to open two...one that's for High School level kids and one that's a post HS trade school.

--Wintermute

[Speed911]

Originally Posted by Sarahdactyl

Should probably add one more thing in there:

College isn't a requirement and doesn't mean your life is over if you don't go. College isn't for everyone so if you can't hack it, don't fret it.

If you don't want to go, don't let your parents make you go. You more than likely end wasting money and not doing so well. Sometimes it takes a little bit to realize where and what you want to do in life.

I really wish the school system would talk about trade schools and community college more often and not just 2-4 yr college. I wish there were more trade schools out there. Community colleges are great for finding out what you want to do and not spending an arm and a leg to do it.


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THANK YOU! It was SHOVED down our throats that by the time we were graduating high school, that we should be in college right after, and then know what we are going to do with our lives. If I could figure out what career I wanted, I'd be down for trade school or even college, but I haven't yet, and I'm perfectly content right now.

[JFranko]

Originally Posted by Sarahdactyl

Should probably add one more thing in there:

College isn't a requirement and doesn't mean your life is over if you don't go. College isn't for everyone so if you can't hack it, don't fret it.

If you don't want to go, don't let your parents make you go. You more than likely end wasting money and not doing so well. Sometimes it takes a little bit to realize where and what you want to do in life.

I really wish the school system would talk about trade schools and community college more often and not just 2-4 yr college. I wish there were more trade schools out there. Community colleges are great for finding out what you want to do and not spending an arm and a leg to do it.


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Yup, my parents pretty much raised me saying I was going to college, so I always did well in school in preparation. Currently I am in school, doing well, and I'm glad they gave me this opportunity.

Unfortunately I have cousins that are faring a little worse. My aunt flat out wouldn't hear it when it came to trade schools, and insisted they go to college. One is 24, dropped out of 2 or 3 schools, and hasn't held a steady job. The other is in rehab with a kid on the way. He tried going to trade school after he got in some trouble with drugs, but bad habits die hard. If he'd started in high school he probably would have a career by now and wouldn't be in the situation that he is in. Hopefully he gets his act together though, for his sake and his daughter's.

Aaand, I'm done with my sob story.

[Sarahdactyl]

Originally Posted by JFranko

Yup, my parents pretty much raised me saying I was going to college, so I always did well in school in preparation. Currently I am in school, doing well, and I'm glad they gave me this opportunity.

Unfortunately I have cousins that are faring a little worse. My aunt flat out wouldn't hear it when it came to trade schools, and insisted they go to college. One is 24, dropped out of 2 or 3 schools, and hasn't held a steady job. The other is in rehab with a kid on the way. He tried going to trade school after he got in some trouble with drugs, but bad habits die hard. If he'd started in high school he probably would have a career by now and wouldn't be in the situation that he is in. Hopefully he gets his act together though, for his sake and his daughter's.

Aaand, I'm done with my sob story.

I'll cross my fingers for them. One thing I say it's never too late to turn around and go back to school. I about 3 years out of HS before I realized where my life was headed.

[dwbrown]

Originally Posted by Sarahdactyl

I about 3 years out of HS before I realized where my life was headed.

Street corners?

[5-90]

Originally Posted by Sarahdactyl

Should probably add one more thing in there:

College isn't a requirement and doesn't mean your life is over if you don't go. College isn't for everyone so if you can't hack it, don't fret it.

If you don't want to go, don't let your parents make you go. You more than likely end wasting money and not doing so well. Sometimes it takes a little bit to realize where and what you want to do in life.

I really wish the school system would talk about trade schools and community college more often and not just 2-4 yr college. I wish there were more trade schools out there. Community colleges are great for finding out what you want to do and not spending an arm and a leg to do it.


edit: A word and more things.

College isn't a requirement. And, one need not go to college directly from high school - you'll get a lot more out of it if you take a year off and live for a bit, and then go back and pay for it yourself - you'll be more motivated.

And, taking shop classes out of primary school is a mistake. As you noted, not everyone is academically inclined. Forcing someone who is not necessarily "capable" of college to go through a programme - even LibArts or GenEd - is doing them (and society!) a disservice.

[attackcammel]

The trade school thing is great. I did college right after high school and all it got me was some extra bills to cover. I found a trade school for welding after 2 years of college and wouldn't want it any other way I love the shop I'm working in and don't hate going into work everyday.

College wasn't for me but some people are better off going that way. Just not me.