Try asking in the XJ cherokee forum. This is the Full Size Jeep area, for Grand Wagoneers, J-Trucks, and Cherokee Chiefs.
Just because you're lifting doesnt mean you need to drop $500 on all moog tie rod ends and such. You're going to end up paying for that name brand. I'd replace the one thats bad and then just move on with life. If the added stress of a lifted suspension and big tires is going to kill a tie rod end, its going to kill it regardless. And a proper lift, done with the proper steering mods, won't put undue stress on your TRE's.