You need to demonstrate the issues you have and let the dealer figure it out. They will only fix the Fuel Pump relay as part of the recall. They are not going to replace the TIPM unless other issues can be attributed to it.
I know, little help, but there were threads here a few months ago about getting the TIPM fixed before the recall as sometimes one got lucky and got a new TIPM. How well do you know the service advisor? Some are cool, others are by the book.
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