Originally Posted by Lug
I'm running them all right at 30 psi. You have any suggestions on what I should be running?
On another note: I was telling my wife about this thread and told she needs to come out and help me work on my jeep. Not really working for me. Any suggestions there?
30 PSI shouldn't be too high. You might try 28 PSI, but I doubt that you're over-inflated. Hell, try it and see how it rides...if it's better and you've got good tire wear then keep it. If not, go back up.
Lessons In Love: How To Get Your Girlfriend To Work On A Jeep
Girls don't usually like anything that happens in garages, and if you find one that does then you need to marry her because such creatures are priceless treasures in the Wasteland. So although this seems complicated at first glance, I'm here to tell you that it doesn't have
to be. Simply remember this: Show her that it's not about the Jeep...it's more about you and her spending time together.
To that end, you should notice that I did not use the word "need" anywhere in that sentence. Why? Because there is no reason to tell her that she "needs" to do anything. Get "need" right out of your head, because "need" reduces someone to being nothing more than a necessity...and, really, who wants to be a necessity? Water and air and food and sleep are necessities. People want to be wanted
...they want to be a choice
. So you don't tell her that any given thing "needs" to happen. Hell, you don't tell
her anything like that at all...you show
her. Your actions - and this is true for all parts of all relationships - need to telegraph one very important thought: that you want to spend time with her...and that you enjoy spending time with her regardless of what you might be doing.
Let's make that a bit more clear: the particulars of the activity are irrelevant...what matters is the enjoyment of being around each other.
In my own case, Anna knows that I'd be perfectly content if she never picked up a wrench...she could sit there in the garage and crochet all day and I'd be fine. We could still talk, keep each other company and generally enjoy being around each other...and that's what it's really all about, in the end: a simple desire to spend time together. To that end: if your girl just isn't naturally interested in helping out, then that's fine...you go do what you want to do and then make sure to come in from the garage a little early just to spend some time with her
. By doing so you show her that you've made a choice
and that the choice is her
. Oftentimes - due to your having made the choice
to spend time together - you will soon find her choosing
to wander out to the garage just to spend time with you.
Seriously, this is all the effort that's required in most cases...but what if you've shown interest in spending time with her and she still doesn't seem to be reciprocally connecting with you in a garage-wards way? Easy answer: begin involving your girl in small ways by ACTIVELY showing interest in her participation and then ACTIVELY encouraging any interest that she then returns. In order to build a person's confidence and interest in regards to any given subject, you often have to give them a way to be involved without overwhelming them...in other words, you need to bring a little bit of the garage to her! As a simple example: try asking her opinion
on something. It doesn't matter whether she has an intimate knowledge of the subject or not...you're looking to involve her in ways that rely on preferences
instead of knowledge
. Opinion-based questions show the person being asked that you - the questioner - are trying to connect with them
rather than with an abstractly-correct answer. Thus, a simple "Hey, what do you think about how these tires/seats/tube fenders/rocker guards/beadlocks/half doors look?" query can allow her to simply talk without risk on an otherwise-daunting or uninteresting subject...and by talking with each other the focus is again on the two of you spending time together. It may take some time, but she won't overlook the effort you are making with her...and - if it's a healthy relationship - those efforts WILL
It's really that simple...so unless you're a total f***tard, you can't screw this up. All you have to do is show her that spending time together is important to you: if you can manage that, you will likely find her more than willing to get involved in whatever way she thinks she can help.
And that, my friends, is how you get your wife/girlfriend/sweetheart/mistress to work on a Jeep with you.