Browse through the lifted XJs pic- thread on the stickies, and go on from there what you want. Any lifted Jeep can ride and drive like crap, and pretty much any lift height- tire combo can be built to ride and handle properly - even better than stock. It's all about your budget, what you want, etc..
Rule of thumb is the higher you lift or the larger the tire size, the more expensive and more work it will be to get it right. If you're on a fairly tight budget, I'd keep it at around 2"-3" lift and 31s.
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