^^This. The minute you give up on your desires, the woman takes over. I have a friend that used to be all into cars, having fin, pretty much, being a guy. Now, after being married, his wife has his balls in her purse, and he doesn't even hang out. Oh...no more cool cars...he drives a prius.
Hell, to make sure that didn't happen to me, several weeks after having a kid, I bought a sports car. Then a couple years later I bought the rubi.
You know what I can't wrap my head around? In the dozen or so "serious/semi-serious" relationships that I've had since my HS days is when a women desires a man
, after she gets one, after a few months, they begin to systematically dismantle said man into some stripped down puppet. They begin to resent all of the hobbies you have, your friends, how you spend your hard earned money, the way you dress, etc etc. Even if you haven't changed a bit since you first met!
Why? You wanted a man and that's all just part of it. Once you take that all away, you're left with a shadow of the person you supposedly fell for. So what the heck?
Just keep doing what you're doing! If you take care of her (i.e. she has what she needs, you make her feel important/special, and you make her a high priority) then after that you should still have complete control over who the hell you want to be.
My .02 for what its worth