So, Just want to update everyone.
Death Wobble was correct!
I had a friend send me to a good mechanic who wouldn't play games with me. I told him what we talked about in this thread. He replaced the steering stabilizer pump, and tightened a bunch of loose bolts on the drivers side front end suspension. cost me $100.
I've driven her all over Miami, no Death Wobble!!! But I will need to replace the ball joints soon.
As for the RPM's and TV cable, I'm paranoid. My cat-convert is F-ed up and I need to replace it: solution, put new radio and speakers today...lol
Thanks for all of the help! I would have believed it was the transmission if it wasn't for you guys