Alright, I think I found it, There were two plugs going into it, one with many wires and contacts, and then one with two thicker wires that appeared to power what looks like the pump. I cleaned it (wasnt really dirty to start with but whatever) and plugged the connnector back in, and tried turning the key... no luck.
I also traced the wires from the front speed sensors up into the engine compartment and I found little connectors inline, where I was able to measure the resistance. So with my new digital multimeter, heres the readings I am getting. FL=1,077; FR=1,070; RL=1,049; RR=1,063. They all seem fairly close so I am guessing the speed sensors are not the problem, unless they all are failed and I have trouble beleiving that.
Also, now that I know where the ABS controller/Pump is, I was able to listen to it. I had my brother turn the key to "On" and I listened. From that area, (pretty sure it was coming from the pump), I heard a faint buzzing sound for a second. Then it stopped, clicked a couple times, and then nothing.
Heres a photobucket album of today's work: http://s45.photobucket.com/albums/f8.../Fixing%20ABS/
I wish I could post img tags but I cant yet, have to wait till 25 posts, sorry