Ok here are the pictures, the first is a picture of the foglights, note I already took off one of the connectors to get a better picture.
Here are two pictures of the plugs, the one on the left is the one from the foglights, the one on the right is the plug that was connected to the foglight harness on the jeep. As you can see this is a square peg in a round hole issue.
and another shot from the side
what I'm thinking is if I can get some pins for the grey connector, I could put the grey connector on the foglights and I would be all set. Does anyone know what type of connector the grey one is?