Oh boy - sounds like trouble...
The wheel "tilt" is probably the axle flexing under load. I suggest changing the tires if the inside treads are down anywhere near the wear bars. May not help the swaying but it would be worth it to me to lessen the chance of a blow out at speed. I'd further suggest putting on light truck tires - something with a load range good for at least 1500 lbs (half your total weight). [Sidebar note: I had a set of Uniroyal Laredo's light truck tires back when I had a Buick Roadmaster wagon and I towed a lot. Turned the raised whiter letters inboard. Tire guy recomended them since he knew I towed a camper. 44 psi max inflation. A little rough riding when the car was empty, but loaded up, they'd barely squat. Loved them!].
The swaying is more to do with the loading. Not only are you well loaded, you may have too much to the rear of the trailer. I think you're on the right track weighing the tongue weight. I understand the concern about the backend of the Jeep sagging. You may want to consider a set of air shocks [Another side bar: my Buick had the factory ride control with air shocks and an on-board air compressor. Blew an air shock once on the way to Florida with the camper. Back of car squatted to the point the chains dragged. We readjusted load to minimize tongue weight and it was definitely more "squirrely"].
And finally, (for your son to read): is there anything on that trailer worth risking your life and others for? California isn't the moon - they have stores out there and you can eventually replace what you leave behind. Might be better to get SOME of your stuff out there than lose ALL of your stuff along the side of the road somewhere...AND DRIVE SLOW. You are pulling a train...and you've got to stop it too!
The house buyers finances are coming under fire so the closing has been delayed again. I'm trying to pass along all the good advice in this thread and my son has turned into Mr. Negative just giving me a bunch of crap. Gave him a good lecture on not passing his stress onto me through verbal attacks and maybe he got the point. Who knows?
We run Michelin LTX M/S tires on all our Jeeps so think he's in pretty good shape there. I run about 33psi in them and could probably jack it up another 5+psi.
I mentioned possibly blowing a worn tire on his trailer and he said he'd just keep an eye on them. Don't have any idea why if I'm willing to buy him another new tire/wheel he wouldn't take up my offer to be running new tires? Heck, his spare (the new one I bought him) is strapped down under a bunch of tarps he's going to put shrink wrap overtop and couldn't get to it if he wanted to.
Real good idea on the air shocks! Even though I just put new gas-matic monroes on it I would be willing to change them out with new air shocks. Not sure if the below ones are any good or not? Half the reviews said they're great and the other half are dismal where they're flimsy while blowing out. May not be worth it if the load's so heavy the shocks will fail.
The kid's on the cheap and wants to leave nothing behind. As if his trailer isn't heavy enough he loaded about a 20lb box of cleaning fluids/supplies to it last night. Now my daughter has all the cleaning supplies you need and why would you want to be hauling a bunch of full aerosol cans in the heat of the desert?
Thanks for the input and hope he comes to his senses once he finds out how much that trailer weighs. Leaving part of his stuff here may be better than leaving it in another state along the way...
Hate to be Mr. negativity but it sounds like the trailer is just to heavy like already mentioned. If that's the case then nothing is going to make it safe. I'm curious to see what the scale says
Me too! And I told him to weigh the tongue separately on the scale to see what the tongue weight is? Of course he said what's the difference because he can't move anything further forward since his XJ is already squatting in the rear. We'll see what the total weight is?
I think he might want to start to look into a U-Haul truck and one of their auto transports for the jeep, THEN LOOSE THE TRAILER...
Exactly and that was my suggestion from day one! If he would have asked his grandma nicely she probably would have given him the money to rent a truck along with a vehicle transport rig behind it. I should have mentioned this but he said there's no way he's driving a truck out there because of such crap gas mileage.
But once he found out it would cost $500-$600 for a one-way u-haul enclosed trailer rental his crazed neighbor convinced him to buy a $1,000 landscape trailer. Then once he got out there his move wouldn't cost him anymore than gas since he could sell the trailer once out there. The one flaw in this plan is he has to get there first!